Proverbs 19:11; 19
A person’s wisdom yields patience;
it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.
A hot-tempered person must pay the penalty;
rescue them, and you will have to do it again.
Written by: Kyle Glenn
“You make me so angry!” These are common words that come out in a heated discussion. Then there’s often a point in the argument when the topic moves from what the original disagreement was about and becomes personal. In conflict, we naturally become defensive and move toward attack mode. The Bible gives us some clear guidelines for getting peeved.
There are two types of anger. The first is righteous anger. It’s easy to get angry over extreme cases of sin, abuse, evil, and injustice. No matter how reprehensible the people or activities are, we still aren’t justified to sin in our responses. God says in Romans 12:19 that He will punish those who do evil and will fight those battles for us.
The second type of anger is self-produced anger. What does God say about this? The bad news for all of us is that scripture contains many more verses giving caution against losing our cool than verses advocating for righteous anger.
Anger comes from within, meaning no one can make you angry. Regardless of how annoying or how unfair they are, this anger speaks more about you than anyone else. This anger boils up on the inside because you have unfair expectations or unresolved conflict. It has everything to do with you.
A good question to ask to distinguish between the types of anger: “Am I more concerned with being right or being righteous?”
Proverbs 19:11 reminds us in those moments to allow wisdom to take over. When we feel anger rising up from within, we are encouraged to seek wisdom. Stop and ask the Holy Spirit for peace and to know what the right thing to do is.
Thought of the day: Who is someone you believe makes you mad? What do you think this says about you? What does it look like to be patient with this person moving forward?
Prayer: God, give me patience today toward the people I interact with. May You help me be known as a person of peace.